So, lately, I've been listening to some old mix CDs. Reason 1- I went through all my CDs (with the move and everything) and decided which ones I want to keep and which ones I want to get rid of. Reason 2- Haven't been to the library yet to get a book on CD.
Well, the one I was listening to today made by a friend in college had Allison Kraus's song "When You Say Nothing at All" on it. It reminded me of dances at NAU and how that song was so popular as a slow song because it was such a great song. Well I'm listening to the chorus, "You say it best, when you say nothing at all." And it kind of made me laugh!
Okay, I've been married five and a half years, I don't believe I have the secret to marital bliss by any means, but I do know I know a little bit more about being married now than I ever did while I was single. And when my husband doesn't use words to communicate with me, it drives me crazy! I'll even tease him sometimes, "Honey, use your words to tell me what you want."
Of course, I'm easily annoyed by that because I'm incredibly articulate- hello, I teach English. If I can't use words to communicate, it just can't be done. I always tell Jason, "You can never say you don't know what I'm thinking."
But, anyway, back to the song. I mean, why would it be a good thing to not say something. hmmm? It was obviously written by someone single!
But then I listened to the first part of the chorus that talks about "the smile on your face let's me know that you need me. The touch of your hand says you’ll catch me if ever I fall....when you hold me near, you drown out the crowd..." and I realized there was some truth to it. There is something nice about being with someone for long enough that you can just look at each other and know what you're thinking or what you mean. That's the comfort, the security blanket of marriage.
And then there's reality. I'm sorry, but words are still the best way to say something to your spouse. All these wedded years under our belt with no children to mess things up, and still, if I don't get my 20 minutes minimum to debrief with him each day, I feel like the world is going to fall apart. If we don't "iron out" the kinks of the next day's affairs, inevitably something falls apart. And that, my friends, is the reality, the grownup seat belt of marriage.
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2 comments:
I think that as a married couple there are things, that say "I love you" better then the words do them selves, you know, actions speak louder then words. But I do agree just saying whats wrong is a little easier as opposed to playing 20 questions. =D
It's not just your guy that is like that for sure!!!...but to me the song is about the "service" of love. I feel most loved with things he does more than things he says a lot of the times. Sometimes he doesn't know what to say, but does just the right thing.
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